I had to ask permission. It is a bittersweet memory of my first wedding date in 1969. The sweet part is. I was the groom and Marguerite (nee Hoffmann) was the bride. We met through a fraternity brother. she was from Rennselear NY, the daughter of a dairy farmer studying at the Fashion Institue. I was who I am . We had dated for two years after I had won her telephone number in a fraternity poker game. Our decision to marry made us the first to marry in our circle of friends and in my generation. We planned and payed for the wedding ourselves. We were married at Blessed Sacrament Church in Bayside NY. Our reception was at the River View, underneath the Throgs Neck Bridge. We honeymooned in Montreal.
The bitter part was that the marriage did not last bu two years. We got caught up in initial careers pressure. She worked for the children's division of Izod. I was attending school fulltime and working fulltime. I would leave our apartment on Otis Ave at 6AM go to school then began work at 4 PM until midnight. as well as it being the heady days of woman's liberation. The marriage ended physically in 1971 when i returned to Viet Nam, legally in 1976 when we finally divorced. It took a while longer for the emotional end and healing.
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